6 Things You Don’t Know About Your Guy

 Alright ladies! Pay attention! Read! Absorb! Learn!
I am posting this for you insecure women out there! You know who you are! Woman to woman,YOU CAN LEARN A WHOLE BUNCH FROM THIS! I am hoping to cut down on girls whining about their men.It gets old after about the 1st time.Read, listen ,absorb, learn, accept it! Your life, my life, and His life will get better! Remember we all have our own problems to deal with.Not just yours! So with that said, enjoy! (this is not aimed at anyone in particular!)This is a well written Factual article!






6 Things You Don’t Know About Your Guy
By Emily Battaglia, Lifescript Staff Writer
Published May 16, 2009

Just when you thought you had men figured out, here are six undisclosed truths you never knew. Your guy isn’t intentionally keeping secrets. He’s just more likely to abide by the “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy. Find out how understanding – and accepting – these “secrets” can strengthen your relationship

 1. He doesn’t like all of your friends
Chances are he likes your self-involved, basket-case girlfriend about as much as you like his beer-chugging womanizer buddy. He probably wonders why you hold onto the friendship, and he might even wish you’d end it. After all, he’s the one you vent to about her. But he’s not going to open Pandora’s box by telling you his true feelings.

Lesson learned: He doesn’t have to like all your friends. He just has to be civil to them for your sake, unless, of course, those friends are trying to sabotage your relationship.

Next time you feel the urge to gripe about your friends to your guy, remember that he’s filing away everything you say – and he may not be able to forget and forgive as easily as you do.








2. He checks out other girls
If your guy denies noticing the cute waitress at the café, he’s probably just sugarcoating the truth to avoid an argument with you. Men like to look at beautiful women – just as women like to admire handsome men.

But that doesn’t mean he’s envisioning a life or even a steamy interlude with the waitress.

Nor does it mean he’s comparing her to you. Odds are he simply appreciates her beauty, just as you appreciate the great grin of that Brad Pitt look-a-like you always bump into at the fax machine.

Lesson learned: As long as he’s not blatantly ogling girls or flirting  with other women in front of you, don’t worry! You’re the one he loves.

Avoid the urge to blurt out the dreaded, “Do you think she’s prettier than me?” He’ll find self-confidence much sexier than insecurity. Plus, no guy likes to be pressured into dishing compliments.

3. He gets hit on
Women probably flirt  with your man. In fact, some may have crushes on him, whether he knows it or not, or tells you about it.
Sure, tall, dark and handsome men get hit on more often, but even bald guys with beer bellies can be cute. (If you find him attractive, other women do, too.)

He probably doesn’t tell you when it happens because he doesn’t want you to worry or overreact. Do you tell him every time a man hits on you?

Lesson learned: Remember your guy wants to be with you. As long as he’s not the one doing the flirting, it’s fine for him to be flattered when he gets attention from other women. Similarly, you shouldn't feel guilty if your local coffee shop barrista makes extra friendly small talk with you.

You should be flattered, too – after all, it proves you’ve got good taste in men!

4. He wants to get married, eventually
Ball-and-chain jokes aside, most guys do want to get hitched… when the time is right.

The idea that all men want to be life-long bachelors is simply untrue. Most of them like the idea of spending the rest of their life with one good woman.
The catch is that they also want to sow their wild oats and enjoy the single life first. Men typically want to establish themselves both financially and career-wise, want kids  when they’re older and want to own a house by the time they get married.

Lesson learned: If your guy isn’t ready for marriage and you just can’t wait any longer, move on. He might not be in the place he needs to be right now, or unfortunately, you may just not be his Mrs. Right.

And if you’re already married to him, don’t assume he’s secretly pining for the bachelor life he left behind whenever times get tough. Love, fulfillment and security trump lonely nights and an empty fridge – even for guys.

5. He lets himself go when you do
He’ll probably never tell you, but your guy doesn’t adore you regardless of how you look, especially when it comes to weight gain (except pregnancy) or letting your appearance slip.

If you stop hitting the gym, trade those short skirts that won his heart for frumpy sweats, or no longer bother to style your hair, he’ll still love you, but odds are he’ll long for the old you.
He might even wonder if you’ve stopped caring about him if you stop caring about how you look when he’s with you.

Ask if he thinks you look fat, he’ll lie to avoid hurting you, though he may let you know in more subtle ways. Remember, the way you looked when he fell in love with you is the way he wants you to stay forever.

Lesson learned: Never take for granted the importance of physical attraction in your relationship. Look good for your guy, and you’ll feel better about yourself.



6. He takes it personally when you nag…
Finding fault with people – especially our loved ones – is easy. So is getting into the habit of mercilessly criticizing your partner.

While your guy may joke about your nagging to his friends, he’s not finding it funny on the inside. You might think you’re offering gentle reminders or that you’re being justifiably critical, but the more you nag, the more he’ll tune you out because he’s genuinely hurt.
Pointing the finger at someone else is easier than dealing with your own issues. But never being at fault can be tiresome to a husband who isn’t always to blame either.

Lesson learned: Stop this vicious cycle by treating your boyfriend  or hubby as an equal.

And remember, for the most part you knew the man you married when you got hitched; it’s unfair to now criticize him for being the man you chose to marry.


 So did it hit home with some of you? I hope so. If it did and you could change a couple of these in yourself. I would bet, your relationship improves! I know if your a whiny friend, it would improve our relationship. I would rather hear something positive about your man! It makes it easier to like him! I like my friend getting along with my man !

to:
Emily Battaglia ,
  You are hands down a very wise woman! Thank you